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Parshat Vayigash


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The Torah portion of Vayigash recounts how Yaakov was told that his long-lost favorite son Yosef was still alive, as it says (Gen. 45:26), וַיַגִדוּ לוֹ לֵאמֹר – “And they told him saying, ‘Yosef is still alive. Indeed, he is the ruler over the entire land of Egypt.’ His heart went numb, for he did not believe them.”
A Soft Reveal
The Ohr HaChayim wonders why the Torah says the word לֵאמֹר (saying) in this verse, which usually indicates that a response is expected when no response was expected in this case. He explains that לֵאמֹר  here means that they prefaced the news about Yosef with an introduction. They wanted to break the news slowly so that Yaakov not be harmed by the shock of the good news. Thus they began by saying that Shimon and Binyamin were back and were unharmed. Then they said that they had more good news. After Yaakov prepared himself mentally to hear the news, they told him that Yosef was alive. When he had processed that information, they added that Yosef was the ruler of all of Egypt.
Serach bat Asher
According to Targum Yonatan (on Gen. 46:17), it was Serach, daughter of Asher, who informed Yaakov that Yosef was still alive, in which merit she lived an extremely long life and entered Gan Eden alive without ever passing away. According to one version of Targum Yonatan, when she informed Yaakov of the news, he blessed her and said, “The mouth that informed me that Yosef is alive should never taste death.”
Why Serach?
The work entitled Aleph-Beit of Ben Sira (on page 50 of the Otzar HaMidrashim Eisenstien) adds that the brothers were embarrassed to tell their father that Yosef was alive since they had indicated that he was dead by showing him Yosef’s bloody coat (see Gen. 37:32). So instead they asked Serach to relay the news. When she did so, Yaakov blessed her as mentioned above.
A Musical Disclosure
The Midrashic work called Sefer Hayashar (on Parshat VaYigash) adds that Serach was very beautiful and wise and was a skilled player of the harp. She broke the news to her grandfather while playing on her harp and singing a song with the following words: “Yosef, ‎my uncle, is alive, and he reigns over all the land of Egypt; he is not dead.” After she repeated this several times, Yaakov was overcome with joy, and the Divine spirit returned to him. He blessed her and asked her to play it one more time. As she was doing so, the brothers arrived with the wagons to bring Yaakov to Egypt, and he realized that her words were true.
Other Appearances of Serach
Our sages say that Serach played a pivotal role in several events in our history. For example,
  • She affirmed that Moshe was the redeemer by confirming that he was using the correct wording to announce the redemption (Shemot Rabbah 5:13).
  • She showed Moshe Rabeinu the burial spot of Yosef (in the Nile river) so Moshe could exhume his coffin and bring it to Israel (Pesikta on Parshat Beshalach).
  • Serach was alive at the end of the 40 years in the desert when they counted the Jewish people before entering the land of Israel (Rashi on Numbers 26:46).
  • According to the Targum Yonatan [ibid] she was the wise woman who negotiated the surrender of the city of Avel thus saving it from certain destruction by King David’s general – Yoav. See Shmuel II 20:15 – 22.
  • According to a tradition of Persian Jewry, Serach bat Asher entered Gan Eden via a cave in the city of Ispahan in Iran (see Avanim Bachoma, published in Jerusalem 1970, by Rafael Chaim HaKohen, page 3). That cave is venerated until today.
See also Derech Eretz Zuta, chapter 1 for a list of nine people who entered Gan Eden while alive.
In connection to this, this article will discuss the importance of sharing good news and how it is best to not share bad news (if at all possible).
Do Not Bring Back a Bad Report
The Talmud (Megillah 15a) says that one should (preferably) not deliver a bad report. The Talmud explains that this is why the prophet Daniel did not inform Mordechai when Esther (initially) refused to approach King Achashverosh and plead for her people. (See Esther, Chapter 4.) [The verse says that Hatach was the name of the person who began relaying the messages between Mordechai and Esther. But, according to the Talmud (ibid) this Hatach was none other than Daniel the prophet.]
This concept is based on the verse in Proverbs (10:18) that, “He who spreads slander (or other negative information) is a fool.”
The Passing of Rav Kahana
The Talmud (Pesachim 3b) says that when Rav Kahana was ill, the sages sent Rabbi Yehoshua, the son of Idi, to see how he was doing. Unfortunately, when he came, he found that Rav Kahana had already passed away. So Rabbi Yehoshua rent his garment (in grief) and turned his cloak around so that the rip was not easily visible. When he returned to the rabbis, he was crying. The rabbis exclaimed, “Did he pass away?” Rabbi Yehoshua said, “You said it, not me, for one who delivers bad news is a fool.”
The Barley Is Good
The Talmud goes on to relate a story where a Rabbi Yochanan, the scribe, was sent to see how the wheat crop was doing. He found that it was not doing well. But instead of saying this, he reported that “the barley crop is doing well,” thus alluding that the wheat crop was not successful.
Similarly the Talmud (ibid) relates that when Rav was asked by his uncle Rabbi Chiya as to how his parents were doing (Rabbi Chiyah was related to both of them), Rav avoided answering directly from which Rav Chiya understood that they had both passed away.
The Battle of the Angels
The Talmud (Ketubot 104a) says that when Rebbi (Rabbi Yehudah HaNasi, author of the Mishnah) was ill, the sages decreed that no one should announce his passing. They were afraid that perhaps the report would be erroneous and would cause an ayin harah(evil eye) which might result in his death. The sages sent Bar Kapparah (one of Rebbi’s students) to see how he was doing. Unfortunately he had already passed away. Rather than announce the bad news directly, Bar Kapparah told the following parable upon his return:
“The angels and tzadikim (righteous men)  both clutched the Aron Kodesh (the sacred ark, a euphemism for Rebbi). The angels triumphed over the righteous, and the sacred ark was captured.” The rabbis said to him, “Has he died?” He said to them, “You said it; I did not say it.”
When Necessary
Rabbi Eliezer Papu (author of the Peleh Yoetz) writes (in his book Yaalzu Chassidim, page 301) that one may relay bad news if it will lead to constructive action.
He gives several examples:
  • The verse (Gen. 14:13) says that a fugitive from the battle of the four and five kings (Og) informed Avraham that his nephew (Lot) was captured. This information enabled Avraham to battle the four kings and save Lot. (But see Rashi on the verse that Og had an evil motivation for passing on this news.)
  • Yosef was told when his father Yaakov was ill (Gen. 48:1). It was important for Yosef to know this so that he could bring his sons (Efrayim and Menashe) to be blessed by their grandfather.
  • Similarly, one should inform the relatives of an ill person about his condition so that they pray for him and also assist him in getting proper treatment and making similar arrangements.
  • One should inform children of the passing of their parent so that they can recite the kaddish, attend the funeral (if possible) and take care of his affairs.
Rabbi Papu adds that even in these situations, the very righteous people prefer not to be the bearers of bad news. Rather, they arrange for the news to be passed on by other people. This can be derived from the above-mentioned story with Daniel. Certainly it was important that Mordechai know about Esther’s (initial) refusal to go to Achashverosh so that he could convince her to overcome her fear and go (which Mordechai did successfully). Yet Daniel preferred that this information be passed on by someone else.
Another option in these cases is to break the news in an indirect way as mentioned in the stories from the Talmud cited above.
Bad News through a Non-Jew
Rabbi Papu recommends (Yaalzu Chassidim, page 301) that one should inform people about a relative’s passing by having a gentile tell them the news. In a case where it may shock the person, it is better to inform him personally so that he can be sure to break the news gently. If possible, one should ask the non-Jew to break the news gently.
Good News in Good Places
One should not inform someone of good news when the recipient of the news is in the bathroom as the person may forget and say Baruch Hashem (thank G-d) while still in the bathroom which is not proper (Yaalzu Chassidim, page 305).
Appropriate Response to Good News
Upon hearing good news, one should first thank G-d and only then thank the bearer of the news.
Similarly, before saying L’chaim and giving someone a blessing, one should say a bracha (blessing) and drink some of the beverage so that he bless Hashem, the source of all blessings, before blessing a human being (ibid).
May We Always Merit to Share Good News!
Wishing you a Shabbat Shalom UMevorach!

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